Mailbox: Alpha outside the ring

tamaguccci asked:

Duuude, thank you such for answering my earlier questions. I can’t help but drool at your answers while I read them! A revision to my earlier question: How can you distinguish an alpha outside of the ring. Specifically, in the workplace, at the gym, and most importantly, on a date? And if you want to add other realms that are hubs for social activity, feel free to do so 💕

Funny you should ask because believe it or not, I was going to add to my answer and include some of the stuff that you already mentioned above. Before I do, here’s a bit more spot the alpha…….traits to look for when determining if the dude is a REAL ALPHA (not a wanna be alpha or a top…….a top isn’t always a real true alpha)……..

A real alpha always knows he’s the better man so it doesn’t matter to him if his submissive is taller or placed higher. Here he is enjoying his foot worship but is more focused on laying and enjoying it, he doesn’t need to show any satisfaction on his face.

Note the dude on the right, the alpha as he places his hands on the side of the head of his buddy with one thumb under the chin, controlling the kiss and his position, his tongue taking a big smack before they lip lock, these are all signs of a real alpha taking control……

You may think the bearded dude is the alpha with his messed up look and bigger bod but it’s actually the dude on the right. Note his hands, one behind he head pulling him in for the kiss, the other on his neck controlling the kiss. He goes in for a big open mouth kiss first, letting his tongue guide the kiss, another side of a real alpha…..

In this kiss the dude on the left tries to control the kiss by shoving his tongue in the bearded dude first but a real alpha knows he is always in control. He lets his tank top friend take a bit of control to make him happy, he is confident enough that he doesn’t always need to be in control, he knows he is in control by allowing the other dude to think he is in control. And so the stubble bearded real alpha then locks up the mouth and knows he’s in control of the clean shaved submissive friend……

A real alpha always makes his prey scream in enjoyment while fucking him……look at the sweat on this alpha, as he breaths hard and exhales in the ear of his submissive who screams in pleasure……a real alpha always knows how to please……

What makes the top here an alpha isn’t the position of his hand or even the fact that he’s face fucking the sub…….fuck yah it’s hot that the dude in the wifebeater is being forced to swallow his load while being unable to breath with his nose pinched, but that doesn’t make him the alpha. What makes him the alpha is the body language, that he casually holds onto the nose without any regard for his sub, how he just controls him without saying a word, without having to exert much energy, he just controls it because that’s what an alpha does…..

To answer more of your question……in an office situation the alpha will always be well trimmed and maintained, almost always have some form of facial hair and look very sharp in his suit. He will pack his gym build body very nicely under his shirt and tie……

When not in a jacket, his sleeves will almost always be rolled up but hie tie never undone. His look when in charge will always be serious, never desperate or whiny, he’s always cool and in control.

At the gym a real alpha isn’t necessarily always the bigger guy or the one looking at himself in the mirror. Maybe he’s a top, but not necessarily a real alpha. In fact a real alpha will rarely flex. He doesn’t need to flex. His body language and persona tell the world that he’s an alpha so he doesn’t need to prove it by flexing or taking a million selfies. Instead he has a quiet confidence about him…….he stands tall, his head slightly bent back, giving you a chance to look at this impressive bod even if not flexed…..

Don’t be surprised if you see him wearing his low cut tanks, not to show off his chest but so that his bod can breath while working out and his testosterone and man scent can feed off in the air of the gym while he’s working out……

On a date a real alpha is cool and interested in learning more about you, not only because he’s being a gentleman but also in case he needs to use any of your vulnerabilities against you in the future. He’ll sit squarely at the table, arms folded on the table or at his sides, listening intently to you, with a little lean in to listen to you properly.

He’ll make you feel like you’re the only person in the restaurant. When the bill comes he’ll just gently slide it to his side of the table, pull out his wallet and drop his credit card. There will be no discussion of who will pay or split the bill and even if you already pulled out your card he won’t say anything about it. He’ll just wait for it to arrive and pay for it. Most of the time the waiter will recognize the alpha as a true alpha and just give the bill directly to him, not leave it in the middle of the table. Even if you hand your credit card to the waiter first, he’ll still look over at the alpha and pass him the bill.

Later when he takes you back to his place, he’ll almost always pull off his shirt first, leaving everything else on. He won’t explain it, or ask to go shirtless, or even expect anything. He knows you want to see him shirtless and he’ll make you happy by just doing it. (Much the same way that I took the time to answer your first question and even now have prioritized your follow-up question above a fuck load of other questions still sitting in my inbox…….I know you appreciate a real alpha so I’m making you feel special……)

You’re not born a real alpha, you become one…..these are alphas in training…..

Look at his confidence level! As soon as he gets the win he fuckin jumps off the opponent and flexes! He needs to hit the gym a bit longer but he has alpha status in his future……

Oh fuck, this isn’t cocky as much as it is confident arrogance……He waits for the call to be made, he wins, but instead of just hearing the decision he instead places his hand on the back of his opponent and slams it down while strategically pinning his bulge on his back, then as he gets up he uses his opponents head as leverage to get up while brushing his bulge against his lycra ass……this dude knows exactly what’s he’s going and he’s well on his way to being a true alpha…..

Both these dudes have the look down, with their sweat pants and draw strings pointing to their crotch, sox and caps, looking straight into the camera……but both these dudes can’t be true alphas because one has to be the top alpha in a friendship, you can’t have 2 alphas at the same status so each is trying to one up the other……my money is on the dude on the right making it to alpha first, the bit of fur on his chin and on his chest shows he’s becoming more of a man’s man quicker than his friend…….note also how he positions his feet closer together so that his manspread is wider…….Once he gets his true alpha status his friend will have to accept it and fall in line because the true alpha will expect nothing by respect from fellow less-alphas……